[Sorey gives him a nod at the question, and listens patiently as his friend describes the details. He looks a little worried when he hears that, but it's more because he's concerned for Jun and Vash.]
Ah, I see. That explains it.
[The brunet gives it some more thought. Sorey can definitely see where Jun's grudge against this man is coming from in light of that.]
I think that in the moment of a grudge, it's understandable to want to shy away from any forgiveness or grace to give to that person. Maybe you wish harm or misfortune on them because of what they did, and that's natural. Working through a grudge is... difficult, even at the best of times, because it's like a huge, tangled knot of a lot of strong emotions.
You don't have to forgive his brother. Neither do you have to engage with this current version of him, even if he does change for the better. It's important to let yourself feel those emotions and acknowledge that they're there, and then gradually let go of the intensity of them. That anger and hatred might not fade completely, but that's normal and it's okay if that happens. Does this make sense?
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Ah, I see. That explains it.
[The brunet gives it some more thought. Sorey can definitely see where Jun's grudge against this man is coming from in light of that.]
I think that in the moment of a grudge, it's understandable to want to shy away from any forgiveness or grace to give to that person. Maybe you wish harm or misfortune on them because of what they did, and that's natural. Working through a grudge is... difficult, even at the best of times, because it's like a huge, tangled knot of a lot of strong emotions.
You don't have to forgive his brother. Neither do you have to engage with this current version of him, even if he does change for the better. It's important to let yourself feel those emotions and acknowledge that they're there, and then gradually let go of the intensity of them. That anger and hatred might not fade completely, but that's normal and it's okay if that happens. Does this make sense?